Christmas

This Christmas season has been so bitter sweet. We have been surrounded by family and friends. Rick's sister, Gail, and her daughter, Leslie, came out to be with us over the holidays and it was wonderful. We brought Sean home from Penn State, we cut down a Christmas tree together and decorated it, we celebrated the season and we got to have fun at the Carnegie Sports Center. What a joy it was to have them both here with us. It was a gift to us. We also have been spoiled by people with home made cookies, bread and other goodies. We spent time with our church family singing carols and celebrating the birth of our Savior. We were surrounded by God's blessings.

It was hard singing carols without Tonia. We also watched White Christmas, our traditional Christmas movie, without her to sing all of the songs with me. So I did cry and feel very blue and very sentimental. But we made it through the holiday with new traditions mixed with the old, with a smile thinking about Tonia celebrating in Heaven, and knowing that we continue to look to God for our strength and for everyone he placed in our path.

As we look forward to the New Year, I wish for you:
a new or deeper relationship with God
friends to hug you throughout the year
family to love you day in and day out
a focus on the things of eternal importance

But I especially give you my love and a hug from the bottom of my heart. It is because of your prayers and love that we have been able to move forward and begin to see that we will survive and we will even be stronger.

May God bless you and yours as we move toward 2008!

All of my love!

my brother, Chris

This morning, after 3 days of being in the open heart unit at the hospital, my 27 year old half-brother, Chris, died. Chris and Tonia were only 15 months apart so they grew up together. I have pictures of them together as babies! When Sean was born I have a picture of them both sitting on the floor with him, wondering what this new baby was all about. My heart is hurting for my dad. He has lost a grand-daughter and now a son. He doesn't have a relationship with God to help him through this sorrow. Please be praying for him.

My heart is hurting so much. It is so hard to believe that these two young lives are gone. Our strength is not coming from within because I feel as if I have aged 10 years in the last 5 1/2 months. I have nothing left to give, yet God is very present. I cried with my sister, Lisa, on the phone last night and then again in the wee hours of the morning when she caalled to tell me that Chris was gone.

I have so many memories of Chris; talking about rock climbing and jumping his bike and just being a boy. I remember Christmas mornings when Todd, Chris, Tonia and Sean could hardly wait to wake us up. I remember when Chris would show me how to do stuff on the computer.

Chris leaves behind a 4 year old daughter who will need our prayers.

This Christmas will be bittersweet. We will be surrounded with family and friends but there are special people who will be missing. This Christmas will be much more about the promises of Christmas than ever before.

God is weeping with us today as I remember.....

A Fact about Grief

I learned something new this week. I am not usually someone who cries at the drop of a hat or who cries in public but this past weekend I experienced a loss that knocked me for a loop. In talking to a friend who runs a grief support group I learned something about human beings and God.

GOd wired us to survive! He created us to be able to handle the tough things in life with His strength and not our own. But because we are human we handle stress in a very unique way. My grief over our daughter, Tonia's death, has come in small bursts. GOd has protected us because He knows that we can only take so many emotions at a time. We have a very long journey ahead of us and our grief will continue to be there and we will have to revisit her death over and over. So God only gives us what we can handle.

This weekend I experienced the loss of another kind, the temporary loss of a passion and a way of life. My grief was like a torrent of water falling over my head and almost drowning me. I could not see through the pain and I could not understand this deep grief. But God in His wisdom understood that when we are going through stressful times we need to grieve with all of our passion and lean on Him for comfort. My friend said that since this is a grief that I can allow myself to feel right now that I am grieving much more than I normally would because of all of the grief I have stored up in my body. God created us to grieve, release the stress, lean on Him and survive to face another day.

So today I have weathered a storm of emotion hanging onto God and friends who have been my diligant prayer warriors. Today I am a survivor not by my strength but through God's grace and mercy.

The sun is shining and I am feeling God's comfort in my heart.

May you know the comfort, compassion and grace from our Heavenly Father.